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Getting Involved

I always thought there was a magic thing to say, some pick-up line I didn’t know, a secret code or way to act.. it brings me great pain to say, there isn’t. Obviously there’s no way to get in a relationship by living in a hole, playing video games your whole life. Just get yourself out there. Talk to people.

But there’s no secret code, and nobody has to act any certain way. Just be yourself. It sounds corny and weird, and sometimes I can be corny and weird, but that’s who I am. And it’s gotten me somewhere (even so, I keep falling flat on my face, but that’s an unrelated issue). I was getting nowhere until I realized that people are both intrigued and attracted to what’s real. It’s important to be real, and never pretend to be something you’re not. Same goes with the illusion of “the closet” but that can be my next post.

It’s important to note that, as they say, you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. So it’s wise to be kind and not bitter and, well, unkind. Unless you’re just a bitter and unkind person. If you’re shy, be shy, there are people who like that, but take risks and never fear failure. If you’re bold, be bold, there are people who like that too. If you’re funny, use that. If you’re not funny, don’t try to be, it doesn’t work. If you’ve got talent, show it off. If not, that’s cool too. It’s absolutely critical that everyone is honest with themselves, and can be honest with others. But not too honest, you know what I mean. 

In life, there will be people who find you, there will be people you find. Don’t be afraid to let people in, but don’t let in everyone. When it feels right, you’ll know. If it doesn’t, maybe it will later, maybe they aren’t for you. Keep an open mind. Not everything works out perfectly, I’m sure of that. But things have a way of falling into place when you just do you and let the world do the same.